If I were to ask you “How well do communicate?” How would you answer?
Would your answer be characterized by:
- Rudeness or sharp sarcastic remarks, manipulative, untruthful comments.
or would your words be characterized by:
- Loving, truthful, encouraging, timely, wise comments.
- Pleasing to God.
Our words have the potential to give life or death to another heart.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” (Proverbs 18:21)
Our words will either build up (strengthen in the Lord) or tear down (weaken their faith)
Does the Bible speak to communication principles? The short answer is yes!
Lets take a look at Ephesians 4:25-32
Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
In the above passage we see the four rules of biblical communication.
1. Be honest. Are your words truthful? Proverbs 12:22
2. Be current. Is the timing of your words good? Proverbs 15:23
3. Attack the problem not the person. Are your words loving? 1 Corinthians 13:1-2
4. Act do not react. Are your words full of godly wisdom? Proverbs 10:13
“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:16–17)
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